Comments for Matter over mind http://antifact.wordpress.com Because we are what circumstances make of us. Mon, 21 Apr 2008 16:34:24 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Odd things about breakups by Ripman http://antifact.wordpress.com/2008/04/19/odd-things-about-breakups/#comment-3 Ripman Mon, 21 Apr 2008 16:34:24 +0000 http://antifact.wordpress.com/?p=14#comment-3 In my opinion no "breakup" can breakup the relationship between two souls. I mean that spiritual connection, even that special bond between the two. Once there was something...there alaways will be....but it doesn't always happen, because it's hard to stop thinking about the last person who reached your expectations. We can't always understand ourselves and we make mistakes, hurt people and breakup with them for stupid reasons. I know that some people cant fit togheder and isome can't, but that mostly happens when the relationship is based only something phisical, without knowing and understanding a person in time... In my case realationships went wrong because of me, as i never let people to really understand and love me, and this usualy causes a lot of pain and awful fights..as i am ashamed to write here. On the other hand, 'sex is sex' is not the solution, as others wrote here, sex is the ultimate expression of the connection between two people. I think you can have good sex with someone only if that person is special in your heart and you two fit togheder. Sex is an art were you need to work with your heart and feelings, it can't be done with an empty heart, "empty sex" is just movement and nothing more. In my opinion no “breakup” can breakup the relationship between two souls. I mean that spiritual connection, even that special bond between the two. Once there was something…there alaways will be….but it doesn’t always happen, because it’s hard to stop thinking about the last person who reached your expectations. We can’t always understand ourselves and we make mistakes, hurt people and breakup with them for stupid reasons. I know that some people cant fit togheder and isome can’t, but that mostly happens when the relationship is based only something phisical, without knowing and understanding a person in time…

In my case realationships went wrong because of me, as i never let people to really understand and love me, and this usualy causes a lot of pain and awful fights..as i am ashamed to write here.

On the other hand, ’sex is sex’ is not the solution, as others wrote here, sex is the ultimate expression of the connection between two people. I think you can have good sex with someone only if that person is special in your heart and you two fit togheder. Sex is an art were you need to work with your heart and feelings, it can’t be done with an empty heart, “empty sex” is just movement and nothing more.

]]> Comment on Odd things about breakups by searchingwithin http://antifact.wordpress.com/2008/04/19/odd-things-about-breakups/#comment-2 searchingwithin Sat, 19 Apr 2008 19:34:49 +0000 http://antifact.wordpress.com/?p=14#comment-2 I don't believe that there is any one person that is at fault when a relationship fails, but both people have the tendency to point the finger at the other when things go sour. Both parties need to take a real hard look inside at themselves, and the mistakes they may have made. Sometimes, it's not anyone's fault, it's just a matter of the "wrong time", for one reason or the other, and sometimes, just because you weren't right for each other, but that doesn't make either one of you wrong, or at fault...until you start laying blame. A friend of mine who's opinion I respect greatly has a saying, "Remember when you are pointing your finger at another, there are three pointing back at you." Take my word for it. Even if they have moved on to another person, they are thinking of you, and I believe both parties can't help but analyse where things went wrong. Many times people move straight into another relationship, to avoid the pain inside. Thus the term...rebound. I surely hope you don't truly believe that sex is sex. Sex is the ultimate expression of your feelings for another, and without that, is just a useless act. And I truly hope you don't believe that love is for other people! Just imagine this for a moment: The ultimate revenge, is being truly happy, and moving on. I don’t believe that there is any one person that is at fault when a relationship fails, but both people have the tendency to point the finger at the other when things go sour. Both parties need to take a real hard look inside at themselves, and the mistakes they may have made.

Sometimes, it’s not anyone’s fault, it’s just a matter of the “wrong time”, for one reason or the other, and sometimes, just because you weren’t right for each other, but that doesn’t make either one of you wrong, or at fault…until you start laying blame. A friend of mine who’s opinion I respect greatly has a saying, “Remember when you are pointing your finger at another, there are three pointing back at you.”

Take my word for it. Even if they have moved on to another person, they are thinking of you, and I believe both parties can’t help but analyse where things went wrong.

Many times people move straight into another relationship, to avoid the pain inside. Thus the term…rebound.

I surely hope you don’t truly believe that sex is sex. Sex is the ultimate expression of your feelings for another, and without that, is just a useless act.

And I truly hope you don’t believe that love is for other people!

Just imagine this for a moment: The ultimate revenge, is being truly happy, and moving on.

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